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On Thursday, April 23rd, 2009, the FDA approved sale of the morning after pill, over the counter for 17-year-olds.  Prior to this, it was available over the counter to people 18-years-old and older.  Though this may be a step in the right direction, to increase availability and access to emergency contraception, we must wonder what kind of impact this will have.

If people are able to access this at a younger age, does this mean there will be fewer unintended pregnancies and abortions?  Or possibly a rise in the STD rate?  Though this is an improvement, this must be backed up with reliable information via the education system, i.e. sex education.  Many teens are concerned about pregnancy, in most cases,  more so than STD's.  Often, young people in the US who are using birth control do not worry much about STD's because they think they are being safe, by preventing pregnancy.  However, in the Netherlands, most young women go on birth control as young as  14.  But, via the school systems and sex education, protection from BOTH pregnancy and STD's is so ingrained in them, that young individuals use both condoms and hormonal birth control (IE. pills, patch, ring, shot).  In the Netherlands, it is referred to as "Double Dutch".

So, although this is now available for younger people, it must be backed up with education.  The morning after pill is to be used in case of emergency, not a primary contraceptive method.  In addition, just because this is available, and can prevent pregnancy, it does NOT prevent STD's.

There are so many fun things to do with your partner that can bring you closer together, that doesnt always end in intercourse.   These "fun things" are usually referred to as foreplay, a word most of us in the sexuality field hate!  Because it insinuates that those "fun things" only have BEFORE the real event, Intercourse.  There is a great scene in Kinsey, where Dr. Kinsey meets with two college students who are married and experiencing sexual difficulty.  The woman is experiencing some difficulty getting aroused and even says, "I'm dead down there."  When Kinsey asks the husband if they stimulate each others genitals with hands or provide genital kissing, also known as oral sex, the husband responds, "Why bother, now that we can do the real thing."

Do you remember the time in your life where you could just make out for hours at a time, or have oral sex in the car with the slight fear of getting caught?  And didn't that make it so much more fun!? Try to include oral sex and hand stimulation as THE EVENT, not just the precursor to sex, but sex itself.  Even though you can do the "real thing" don't forget to incorporate what got you there in the first place.

I am always surprised at the people who do not use lube because they designate it for a particular person…usually an older woman or some one who cannot get easily aroused.  Many times I will hear, "I don't need that".  Lube can be for everyone!  Lube can make it easier for a number of things.  For example, if you decide to have manual sex (using hands on each other).  It provides another titillated sensation for your senses…silky, slippery and wet and helps fingers and hands glide along.  Try using some flavored lube like O'my for oral sex.  It is water based but without sugar so it is beneficial to vaginal health.  Also, lubes are a great choice when you are using condoms, which can often dry out.  Just be sure to stick with water based lubes when using condoms.  Today, there are many varieties for choosing lubes, and KY has many different options, for his and her pleasure.  If you are embarrassed about someone seeing you in a store, just order online :)