Fantasy can lead to reality

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Some of these female sex fantasies may have little chance of progressing to reality with your woman, but some have more potential than you may realize. A little bit of coaxing can go a long way in terms of spicing things up in the bedroom. Ask her which of these top 10 female sex fantasies she finds most appealing, and see if she's willing to experiment -- you may be surprised by her answer.



Please her with your finger techniques
Using your fingers on a woman's vagina can reap amazing results -- given that you use the right finger techniques. Of course, it's up to you to figure out exactly what your particular woman prefers when it comes to speed, tempo and amount of fingers.

So, today's tip is offering up a bunch of finger techniques that most women will love. Before you get to work, however, there's one thing that's certain: A woman needs to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate her vagina with these finger techniques. You can't just shove your fingers inside her or rub her clitoris without ensuring arousal first. So, remember to turn her on before you introduce her to your hands.

Here are some finger techniques that will surely press all her right pleasure buttons.

The rubber

The clitoris is the place to stimulate for most women. When she's adequately self-lubricated, or you've put some water-based lube on your fingers, use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub her clitoris softly in a circular motion. Her reaction will let you know that you're on to something. Continue your pace and slowly begin to increase speed. At no point, however, should you go so fast that you end up losing focus.

If she yells out something like "Don't stop!" then don't stop. Some women, however, like it when you take a break from the clitoris and proceed to insert those very same fingers inside the vagina at a rhythmic pace. Take cues from her reactions to see if she's one of these women.

The fastest finger

Does your woman prefer to have slow, exaggerated sex, or does she like to hop up and down on you like a bunny? If it's the latter, using your middle finger to go in and out of her at high speeds may be beneficial in the orgasm department.

For this finger technique, you'd be best served to position yourself in front of her vagina (that is, spread her legs open and kneel in between them). That way, you can keep your hand straight and ensure that your finger(s) is (are) going in at full capacity. It also lessens the chances of missing your target.

The helping hand

If you can manage to use both hands at different tempos, she'll keep getting wetter. While using the tips of your fingers on one hand to rub her clitoris in a circular motion, use the index and middle fingers of the other hand to glide in and out of her vagina. The multiple sensations will serve to increase her chances of reaching orgasm. It's not a race, however; you don't have to go as fast as humanly possible. Just keep a steady rhythm. If she wants it faster, she'll let you know.

The screw

In the spirit of the "fastest finger" technique, you'll need to use your index and middle fingers for this one. Again, sit between her legs and start off with the palm of your hand facing down. Insert your fingers all the way in, then turn your hand so that your palm is facing up and comes out. Repeat it as often as necessary until she reaches orgasm.

Tip: When you turn your hand so that your palm faces up, tap her clitoris with your thumb each time.

The G-spot indicator

Sitting in front of her with your palm facing up, insert your finger(s) inside her and make a "come hither" motion. Your objective is to try to tap her belly button from the inside, in effect, hitting her G-spot. Don't get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by her reaction, keep the same pace or increase speed.

The shocker

If you and your woman enjoy experimenting and you've explored the back end before, this one may be quite enjoyable for her. While you're using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinkie finger in her anus (your hand must be sideways -- that is, your palm would be facing her thigh). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously.

Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into her vagina -- it may lead to an infection.

The slider

This finger technique needs good lubrication. With your index and middle fingers, start off by placing the tips of your fingers on either side of her clitoris, then glide down and make your way inside her vagina. Get back to where you started and keep repeating this maneuver.

Can't put my finger on it

Manipulating the vagina to orgasm is not as difficult as you may think. Once you manage to arouse her mind, her body will follow. And of course, you should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.

Until next time, keep those fingers neat and trim, and show her what you can do with them.

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Is She A Virgin?

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Extra, Extra Virgin

Virgin in the dictionary is defined as, "being in a pure or natural state; unsullied. Unused, uncultivated, or unexplored." Nowadays it seems that the only virgins left are our spayed and neutered domestic pets, and even they still get excited around the opposite sex.

But nevertheless, if you do happen to come across a unicorn, I mean a virgin, and she has never gone beyond kissing a man, let alone performed any oral ordeals, then she is a genuine, honest to goodness virgin. Now, whether or not you have the patience to wait around until she's ready to let you play around her privates with your slinky is a whole other matter altogether.

But be careful, no woman ever forgets her first, not necessarily because it was such an incredible experience, but rather because she let that person take something that she can never get back. Virginity is prized by most and women who are willing to give it to you habitually have a hard time letting go if things aren't working out.


Extra virgin

If your woman has had a couple of boyfriends but has never been prodded in any orifices, then she too can be considered a virgin, but with a twist. Perhaps a couple of guys have managed to caress her breasts and perhaps even given them a lick or two, but that's still pretty tame compared to today's world of bestiality and S&M.

If you're patient and think that she may be the one -- or more importantly, she thinks you're the one, then you may be the lucky guy that gets to delve into her uncharted waters. You and she can explore things and if she has been dying to unleash the beast within, then your sexual compatibility may lie within her (so to speak).


Experimental Virgin

Now, onto the juicy part. There are those women that believe that if they perform oral sex on every boyfriend they've ever had, and let him get his fingers sticky every now and then, that they're still virgins. Now they may bleed a bit the first time they have sex, but are they really virgins?

They have experience. I mean if she just lies there the first time you insert your member, but can play the flute on your instrument like she's written symphonies, has she really maintained her purity? At what point do we draw the line? When has the line between purity and experience been crossed?

I personally don't think that a girl who can inhale a kielbasa like it's a toothpick necessarily connotes the virgin type. If virginity lies in a hole and is not about experience, then our society has a very warped definition of what virginity really is.


The Anal Incubator

Believe it or not, there are gals out there who will let you get into their anal canals, but will still aver that they are virgins. Carnal desires are natural, but anal sex, as well as oral sex (despite what Clinton says), has the word "sex" attached to it because that's exactly what it is. And once you have sex, you are no longer a virgin. Case closed.

So these women are under the illusion that as long as their vaginas remain untouched by the almighty penis, they can still claim to be pure. Pure crud, that is. And if men seem to think that this is a viable argument, then they're just horny and have no qualms about taking the back way in.


The Lying Virgin

For some lucky women, the vagina shrinks back to its original size if they don't have sex for a while, and the next time they do engage in carnal activity, they bleed. Now does that make them virgins? I don't think so. But that's not what I'm referring to; I'm talking about the women who feel that they have to lie as though not being virgins somehow implies that they're not good women.

In today's world, finding a virgin is as common as seeing Britney Spears in a turtleneck. So why do some women insist on fibbing and saying they are when they're not? That'll probably remain a mystery considering there are a multitude of reasons available. It's funny because it seems that gentlemen are no longer searching for virgins, but rather nice girls who have their head screwed on straight and have a wild streak behind closed doors.

And in hindsight, would men prefer a woman who just lay there and let him do everything because she's "never done this before," or would he prefer a girl who has experience and can ride him like a cowboy (given that she hasn't bedded the town and the farm animals)? You be the judge.


Secondary Virginity

If there's ever been an oxymoron that blew me away, this one is it. The point of virginity is that once it's gone, it's gone for good. And no matter how long a woman waits, it's not coming back. So these women that say that they've had sex in the past, but now want to wait until they're married before having sex again are really in a league of their own.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to wait until marriage, but let's call it something different, shall we? How about, "it didn't feel good the first time" or "I made a big mistake?" It's definitely not virginity at the secondary, elementary, or even sedentary level for that matter.

If you met a woman and she told you that she has had sex in the past but won't have it again until she's married, wouldn't you be a little miffed that another guy got the goods and yet you can't? I would certainly feel a tinge of anger at the notion if my man wouldn't let me get at the goods that his former girlfriend had full access to. But that's just me.


Why is it important?

What makes women feel that they still have to claim that they are chaste even if they're not? Is virginity still as prized as it once was or has our society become oversexed and numbed by the media?

Obviously there are some very virtuous women who may or may not be virgins, but that's not what's important. What's important is finding someone who is not just compatible on the communicative, intelligent and attractive levels, but on a sexual level as well.

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About Virginity

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The Lying Virgin

For some lucky women, the vagina shrinks back to its original size if they don't have sex for a while, and the next time they do engage in carnal activity, they bleed. Now does that make them virgins? I don't think so. But that's not what I'm referring to; I'm talking about the women who feel that they have to lie as though not being virgins somehow implies that they're not good women.

In today's world, finding a virgin is as common as seeing Britney Spears in a turtleneck. So why do some women insist on fibbing and saying they are when they're not? That'll probably remain a mystery considering there are a multitude of reasons available. It's funny because it seems that gentlemen are no longer searching for virgins, but rather nice girls who have their head screwed on straight and have a wild streak behind closed doors.

And in hindsight, would men prefer a woman who just lay there and let him do everything because she's "never done this before," or would he prefer a girl who has experience and can ride him like a cowboy (given that she hasn't bedded the town and the farm animals)? You be the judge.

Secondary Virginity

If there's ever been an oxymoron that blew me away, this one is it. The point of virginity is that once it's gone, it's gone for good. And no matter how long a woman waits, it's not coming back. So these women that say that they've had sex in the past, but now want to wait until they're married before having sex again are really in a league of their own.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to wait until marriage, but let's call it something different, shall we? How about, "it didn't feel good the first time" or "I made a big mistake?" It's definitely not virginity at the secondary, elementary, or even sedentary level for that matter.

If you met a woman and she told you that she has had sex in the past but won't have it again until she's married, wouldn't you be a little miffed that another guy got the goods and yet you can't? I would certainly feel a tinge of anger at the notion if my man wouldn't let me get at the goods that his former girlfriend had full access to. But that's just me.

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Threesome Rules

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Threesome rules to follow
There's a whole lot of information on how to arrange a threesome, but there's very little about what you should do once you're in one.

Threesomes are not like regular sex -- they require both imagination and sensitivity. If you plan on having a threesome, you need to go into the situation with some idea of what you're going to be doing, you need some threesome rules.

Understanding these basic threesome rules will help you avoid some common mistakes that typically prevent you from getting the most out of your ménage à trois. There are various types of threesomes that you can enjoy, but we're betting that you're hoping for the type with two women, one of whom is likely your bisexual or bi-curious girlfriend or wife. What follows are the basic threesome rules on how to handle such a delectable, and potentially sticky, sexual situation.


Threesome Rule No.1
Establish the rules

You're going to have sex with two women and all three of you have your own rules and limits, so understanding and respecting one another's comfort levels should be a top priority when you're establishing your threesome rules.

Because your relationship with your woman will likely be affected by this new experience, you need to be absolutely clear on which acts she's comfortable with -- and what to avoid doing -- in advance. She may tell you that she's uncomfortable with the idea of you penetrating another woman or even pleasing another woman orally.

You must respect her limits. Remember that each woman may suddenly feel jealous, so try your best not to shut either woman out and always give more attention to the woman with whom you have a relationship -- this is an extremely important threesome rule.

As well, you may end up feeling jealous if you're not the center of attention. Just keep in mind that the object of the game is to share sex between three people.

Also, remember that although some people try to drink their way to bravery for a threesome, drunken sex usually ends up being bad sex. If you want to have a cocktail or two to loosen up, that's fine, but no more. You want to be at peak performance.


Threesome Rule No.2

Be as giving as you can
Although you may be hoping that the two women will give you 100% of their attention, the truth is that they're there to please each other just as much as they're there to please you. You may end up feeling ignored and should do your best to get over it.

The best way to approach this situation, and an important threesome rule to follow, is to forget your feelings for a moment and try to be as generous with your hands and mouth as you can.

Pleasure in one-on-one sex goes back and forth, but in a threesome it's more of a cycle that moves from person to person. So be patient; focus on turning both women on and the attention will come back to you.

Whatever pleasure you get in a threesome is a treat, so instead of expecting anything in particular (like getting oral sex from both women at once), enjoy everything that comes your way.


Threesome rule No.3

Keep yourself busy
When you find that both women are busy pleasuring each other and you have nothing to do, keep yourself busy. Take matters into your own hands and find something to do.

Caress the breasts, thighs or vagina(s) of one or both women, kiss their backs or necks, or give oral sex to one if she's in a position that allows you to (believe us, this will redirect attention toward you in a hurry).

If you decide instead just to pleasure yourself for a little while, don't feel bad; the action will come back to you soon enough.


Threesome Rule No.4

Be careful with penetration
Penetration is what novelist Tom Robbins calls "that old show-stopper." It automatically forms a serious bond between you and one woman, leaving the other out. For this reason, penetrate only when you're sure both women are comfortable with it.

Your natural inclination will be to pay close attention to the woman you're having sex with, but you mustn't focus on her entirely. This is about the three of you, so keep that ideal close at hand. Kiss and touch the other woman, look her in the eye, and talk to her if the mood is appropriate.

Be aware that you may feel overwhelmed with pleasure if you're thrusting into one woman and kissing and caressing another, meaning that you might climax more quickly than expected. Take it slowly and pace yourself.

And don't get so excited that you lose track of the women: All three of you should be sexually satisfied and, even if you achieve climax first, you must do everything you can to bring your two partners to orgasm.


Threesome Rule No.5

Be safe
Condoms are a necessity, obviously. Semen, vaginal fluid and menstrual blood transmit STDs, so use one specific hand to pleasure one specific woman and use the other hand on the other woman -- and keep it that way. You must never alternate.

Likewise, if you're having intercourse with both women, you must also use a separate condom with each partner. As well, dental dams are a good precaution for oral sex. Lubricate the side that you place against a woman's skin for better sensation.

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“Unconventional” Sexual Relationships

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Hi guys,

Not everyone associates sexual relations with a standard, committed, two-person relationship.   Numerous people enjoy sexual play outside such narrow constructs and, while many may consider these activities to be socially unacceptable, they occur rather frequently.  In order to fully enjoy these practices, you must ensure you understand all of the potential ramifications prior to engaging in them. And today we are going to talk about some of these "unconventional" sexual relationship.

FWB

A "friend with benefits"  is a person with whom you have "no strings attached" sex or sexual relations outside of a committed relationship.   This may be a good friend, a person you know casually from work or simply an acquaintance you've hooked up with specifically and solely for the purposes of sex. So to speak you have someone to enjoy your sexuality with, without having to worry about the "building" of a relationship and all of the attendant commitments and obligations this would normally entail.  You have relatively easy access to free, uninhibited sex at just about any time you feel the need.  The potential down side is that one of you may develop feelings for the other – feelings that may not be reciprocated.   This can have the effect of damaging a good relationship if you've involved with a close friend.

One-Night Stands

One-night stands are (intended to be) one time sexual hook ups, usually done for the specific purpose of a single, non-committal sexual encounter.   If you are not capable of having sex without an emotional attachment, one night stands are probably not for you. These can be an easy way to enjoy the physical side of your sexuality without having to deal with the "familiarity" of someone in an FWB type of arrangement and/or the commitment and responsibilities of a full-time relationship.   This can be a scenario in which you can test out your wild side, and allow you to experiment with a variety of different personality types.  And, once you're done having sex, you go your separate ways with nothing more than a standard goodbye.  The most important disadvantage to these kinds of encounters is that you do not know much (if anything) about your sexual partner.  S/He may have STIs or may be an aggressive partner or dangerous individual for example.  Taking an unknown person back to your place can have dangerous ramifications. Always let someone know where you're going if you plan to involve yourself in these kinds of situations.

Threesomes & Moresomes

Threesomes represent one of the most common sexual fantasies for guys, and to some extent girls.   A threesome is, just as it sounds, sex involving you, your partner, and another person.  With guys it is almost invariably with a second woman involved, though some also enjoy fantasies about involving another guy.  The positives of this type of activity include allowing you to add some spice to your sexual relationship, and perhaps exploring sides of your own sexuality that you might otherwise not have the chance to do.   With the right set of circumstances, a threesome can be an intense, orgasmic experience for everyone.  Getting that set up can be a challenge, however.  You'd have to find someone you trust implicitly, or someone random/unknown who will not be involved with you after the sexual encounter.   Finding someone to enjoy a threesome with can be problematic.  Who do you approach about participating in a threesome?   If you want a stranger, you can try to pick someone up at a bar, club or other venue; going dancing at a club is an excellent place to do this.  Girls can go to lesbian/bisexual clubs and attempt to find another female who is willing to participate.  In a threesome involving two females, their comfort level with each other will be the single biggest determinant of the success of the encounter. As for the sexual act itself, there is always the concern that one of you might focus too much on the third person, and this is certainly a possibility since this will be a person who is unique to the sex you are experiencing.   This "uniqueness" causes each of you to want to focus on them more than the "routine" of sex with your regular partner.  This can generate resentment if one partner appears to be enjoying the third person more than the regular partner. Eventually, you'll all work into a pattern of sexing everyone at the same time.  If it is successful, you'll have the opportunity to explore positions and techniques that you could not up to this point.

You should never agree to a threesome simply to please a partner.  If you don't want to participate of your own accord, don't.   This could permanently (and perhaps fatally) damage your relationship. If you are a person invited to participate in a threesome, you simply have to decide if you're open enough to allow yourself to enjoy the sexual experience without the emotional attachment.   This can be a good way to explore your bi-curiosity, if that is involved.

"Open" Relationships

Open relationships are committed relationships where the two partners are allowed by the other to have sex with people outside the relationship, usually without pre-approval or the previous knowledge of the other partner(s) in the relationship.   This is not "cheating" because the other partner has approved the activity. These kinds of arrangements are common where one partner has a sexual dysfunction that precludes normal sexual activity, for example.  An obvious potential disadvantage to these kinds of relationships is that one or both of the participants may fall in love with or become emotionally attached to the sex partner(s) outside the committed relationship.   This can destroy the base relationship or the external relationship, especially in the event of a fight or other disagreement. Success at these kinds of relationships requires emotional stability, a steady attitude and a strong, deep understanding of the commitment between the two partners in the base relationship.   A failure of any of these is likely to make an open relationship unsuccessful.

Swinging

Swinging is where two (usually committed) partners engage in a pattern of recreational, organized sexual activity with others.   This form of sexual indulgence is usually an adjunct or enhancement to an existing relationship, rather than one pursued specifically on its own merit. You might enjoy swinging if the thought of or the sight of your partner having sex with someone else is a turn on for you.   This activity allows you to explore your sexuality outside the boundaries of what society considers "acceptable" and you may find that tantalizing.  This is a place where women, long the victims of society's double standards considering the enjoyment of sex, can embrace their "slut" side and have sex with as many people as they wish.   If either partner is subject to bouts of jealousy, this is probably not an activity for you. If you have body image or self esteem problems, and/or are not completely comfortable with your own sexuality, swinging might not be for you, either.

The most important issue when considering this type of activity is that both partners must be fully willing to participate.   If one is more enthusiastic than the other, or one just goes along to appease the other, there will be tension, and it will be destructive to your relationship.  If this is something that you'd like to investigate, you and your partner should talk about it, set your own ground rules, and adhere to them while participating in the lifestyle.

Regardless of which of these "out of the ordinary" sexual situations you elect to participate in, you need to ensure that all members are using safe sex practices.   A one-night stand, almost by definition, is an "unsafe" environment, so at a minimum, you should be prepared to use a condom and other safe sex practices in order to prevent acquisition of an unwanted bug.   One orgasm (or more!) is not worth a lifetime of disease.  It is just as much the responsibility of the female(s) involved to have condoms and other safe sex items as it is the guys!   If you participate in a swinger's club, you will most likely be required to use condoms by the club owners, in fact.

Don't make mistakes and end up with a life time of difficulty.  It is your sexuality, and you should feel free to explore your options. At the same time, however, you are responsible for making sure that you don't abuse yourself in the process.

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Sexual Healing

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SexualHealing

We all know that sex makes us feel good; it is common knowledge that arousal and orgasm trigger processes in our bodies (mainly feeling good and relaxed), but what are these sexual healing processes, and how far do they go?
A recent Welsh study has shown that men who have regular sex (three times a week or more) live longer than their one- or two-time-a-week counterparts. There may be a few factors that influence this (sick men have less sex in the first place, and healthier men having more sex due to their vigor). It is difficult to measure accurately; however, the study has pointed out something that has been assumed for a long time: Intercourse has a protective "sexual healing" effect on human beings.

It is proven beyond a doubt that married couples live longer than singles, though this again can be due to a number of factors like more stable living habits (food, rest, etc.) and companionship rate highly among reasons for this.

Here are some findings on the relation between intercourse and sexual healing. Read about them, and then, for your health's sake, get busy.

Sex…

reduces the risk of heart disease

A study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that men with erectile dysfunction were 58% more likely to develop cardiovascular disease.  This does not prove, however, that having regular sex reduces the risk of heart disease, only that the reverse may be true.

Factors that predispose someone to erectile dysfunction and heart disease are the same; your erections, like your heart, rely predominantly on the ability of your blood to reach the right places and stay there. This requires your veins and arteries to dilate and contract in all the right places and generally behave properly.

Smoking, poor eating habits, lack of exercise, and other unhelpful lifestyle choices significantly impact your body's ability to perform these functions by impairing your veins and arteries. So, it's not the sex that provides sexual healing and reduces the risk of heart disease and erectile dysfunction; the way you treat your body impacts sex.

More research has focused on the hormonal affects of libido, arousal and orgasm. DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) and testosterone are both key hormones in libido. Both these hormones have been linked to reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease, and are protective of the heart muscle after a heart attack. Doctors do not generally deem sex after a heart attack to be unsafe — this may be why.

reduces the risk of prostate cancer

Some cardiologists believe they see a link between lack of ejaculation and prostate cancer. A little understanding about how the prostate works tells us the prostate produces and stores ejaculate fluid. It is fair to say that storing fluid in one place for a long period of time is not a great idea — just take a look at a pond with no water flow in or out.

Your body is always in motion, emptying, refilling and replenishing. When the prostate fluid is stagnant, it can build up a toxic load from the rest of your body by simple absorption. This toxic load can ultimately lead to a dysfunctional or enlarged prostate and cancer. Regularly emptying your prostate gland via ejaculation is a good way to keep your prostate healthy, and thus provides sexual healing. The sexual healing doesn't stop here, however. Prostate massage is your friend. To fully empty the prostate of all prostatic fluid, you need to give it a digital (or other) aid. Emptying the prostate means your body will produce a whole new batch of fluids, as well as give your prostate gland a vitality boost with fresh oxygen and nutrients, and maybe a great orgasm to boot.

boosts your immune system

Wilkes University, in Pennsylvania, has shown that people who have sex twice a week have higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A. This antibody is known to boost the immune system. Another study at the Ohio University College of Osteopathic Medicine found that orgasms boost levels of T3 and T4 lymphocyte cells (white blood cells that produce antibodies that fight infection) by as much as 20%.

is a pain killer

It is well known that sexual arousal and orgasm produce endorphins, our "feel good" factor. Endorphins are known pain killers, but they are not the principal factor. Oxytocin, the latest culprit in sexual healing, has become the new pet for scientists studying sexual responses in humans. This chemical is also thought to be at least partially responsible for bonding between partners. This has also been observed in animals, and sheds some light on monogamous and polygamous animals.

In numerous studies, oxytocin has been shown to increase pain thresholds by up to 115% — that's why when you get your butt slapped during sex play, it doesn't hurt like it should.

reduces depression

There is a quip that is not particularly funny: Depression or sex? Choose. Depression often leaves men devoid of sexual desire, and antidepressants are the biological killers of sex drives. A 1999 study found that sex hormones are secreted at different rates; testosterone production is decreased in depressed men.

However, according the American Psychological Society, men (and women) who have sex regularly can ward off depression simply by getting active in the sack. Exercise in general makes us feel good and boosts mood. It regulates appetite and hormones, and because of the increase in oxygen and nutrients in the brain, it has a normalizing effect on the entire body. Exercise (and, therefore, sex) reduces the amount of cortisol in the brain, which is the chemical responsible for stress. Oxytocin, another important chemical involved with sexual arousal and orgasm, increases feelings of intimacy, which can ward off loneliness and sadness and help us feel closer to our partners. It also reduces stress and tension.

A recent study in Australia found that depressed women have more sex more often (both single and in relationships), and include more bells and whistles in their copulation (foreplay, between-play and after-play) than their happier counterparts. This was thought to be due to the increased intimacy during sex that made the women feel better, albeit temporarily.

What about too much sex?

When a penis becomes erect, no blood flows in or out — the blood inside the penis at that time must provide all the oxygen required to keep the penis alive. That is why the penis must have a rest. It is during this time of flaccidity that the penis regroups and replenishes oxygen and nutrients into the tissues. Viagra and similar drugs can cause an issue with oxygen supply by maintaining erections for unnaturally long times; this is known as priapism, which causes the slow miserly and painful death of an engorged penis.

Sex is one of societies most misunderstood activities, which is somewhat amusing since most people do it for a reasonable portion of their adult life, and if they aren't doing it, they wish they were. It doesn't take a scientist to know that sex is good for us and provides a dose or two of sexual healing. However, too much sex, or too little sex, can be unhelpful to our health; moderation is the key.

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Isn’t Tantra worth a shot?

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Hey guys,

Firstly I´d like to thank you all, we´ve been chatting and discussing about sex for about two months and I really appreciate all the emails and questions. Last week I was asked about advices concerning lasting longer whilst making love. There are many ways to reach it, but in today´s topic we are going to discover together the mysteries of Tantra.

Tantra is a mystical subject that is nearly impossible to define. It is a spiritual, sexual science that is not static in its definition. By identifying and stimulating our innate sensual spirituality, we discover parts of ourselves that have been repressed. Above all, we can learn to use Tantric energy for sexual pleasure and awareness.

Familiarity with Tantra can help a person enjoy their sex life to its fullest potential. It can help do away with guilt or fear, and Tantra can break down self-imposed or limiting cultural boundaries (as is the case in most Western societies).

It is all about sexual freedom

Tantra is the total surrender of all mental, emotional and cultural conditioning, so that universal life energy can flow through you freely. It treats sexual energy as an ally, rather than something to be suppressed or discussed behind closed doors. It does not deny sex, in fact Tantra does the opposite by embracing sex. It is the only spiritual practice that states that sex is sacred and not a sin EVEN outside of marriage.

There is a beautiful word for sex in the Sanskrit language, and that word is Kama , which means that sex and love go together; they're undivided and indivisible. Most everyone is familiar with the classic 7th century Tantric scripture Kama Sutra, which deals directly with sex and love.
In Tantra, sex is used as the cosmic union of opposites, to create the polarity charge that connects with the primordial energy from which everything arises in the universe. In Tantra, sex is the totality of All. The basic difference between unenlightened sexuality and Tantra is that sex becomes sacred and divine when you approach it from your heart and body, rather than solely from your mind. Tantra teaches you how to achieve this heightened sexuality.

tantra and sexual awareness

Tantric sex is meditative, spontaneous and very intimate lovemaking. With Tantra you learn to prolong the act of making love and to focus on, rather than dispel, potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness.

Tantra transports sexuality from simply doing to actually being. There is no final sexual goal in Tantra, only the present moment of an ideal, harmonious union. Tantra teaches you to worship your sexual partner and to transform the act of sex into a sacrament of love.

Lovemaking between two partners, when entered with awareness, can be a gateway to sexual and spiritual ecstasy alike. Tantra, through sex, attempts to awaken powerful psychic energies within through which we can enter into higher states of consciousness.

Sexual positions of the kama sutra

The flower in bloom
Your woman draws up both of her knees until they nestle the curves of her breasts; her feet find your armpits. She cups and lifts her buttocks with her palms, spreads her thighs and places her heels next to her hips, while you caress her breasts.

Sounds difficult? Practice makes perfect.

The jewel case
Your legs should run parallel to hers, joining them from toes to thighs. Your woman can remain below you or you can lie side by side, in which case she should always be on your left.

To add a twist to the element, your thighs can be interlaced as you squeeze each other in a pulsating rhythm. This is called "The Squeeze."

The rustic
Get her to lie on her back with both her thighs pressed tightly together and make love to her, keeping your thighs outside hers. Because the vagina ends up embracing and engulfing the penis in its entirety, it becomes quite enjoyable.

Striking
Your woman is in a sitting position with raised thighs; her feet should be placed on either side of your waist. When you penetrate her, forcefully push your entire penis in and out of her.

The cat
Have your woman lie on her stomach and grab hold of her ankles in your right hand and lift them high up. While you make love to her rub her face, neck and between her chest with your other hand.

The tripod
While standing against or near a wall, firmly lift one of her knees with your hand and make love to her; leave her hands free to explore and caress your body.

The buffet
While she's lying on the edge of a flat, sturdy surface, withdraw your penis completely from her vaginal area, and then penetrate her wholly in one shot. Do this continuously until she reaches orgasm (chances are this shouldn't take too long).

always keep in mind…

Remember that you should always maintain eye contact with your partner and allow yourself to feel with more than just your penis. Your entire existence should be involved in the process. And your soul, according to Tantra, completes the experience.

Communication is still the greatest key to a healthy sexual relationship, so talk to her before, during and after your sessions. There's much more to Tantra than what's outlined here; do yourself a favor and learn as much about Tantra as you can.

Last longer with Tantra…

PC muscle contractions

You may notice that it is difficult to keep going or even to stay awake after you've ejaculated; in tantra, it is believed that ejaculation depletes your energy. This belief has led to new practices that train the man and his muscles to recognize energy flows and release them without losing his own vitality.

The pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle), also known as the "love muscle," is located from your pubic bone to your tailbone. This amazing muscle can intensify your orgasms as well as stop ejaculation from occurring. To tone and strengthen this muscle — and ultimately, to increase your level of pleasure many times over — all you have to do is exercise it.

To locate it, urinate and try to stop the flow of urine. Now that you know what it feels like to contract this muscle, practice flexing it 20 to 25 times a day. Perform a couple of sets each day and increase repetitions when you're able, but be careful not to overdo it. During sex, combine PC contractions with the breathing tips that I've listed below. Relax and enjoy.

Testes tug and penis tip squeeze

These techniques also sustain the tantric belief in delaying ejaculation. The aim is to retain your semen, energy and vitality by not spilling it all through sexual acts.  It's believed that lovemaking will allow you to attain heightened states and gain an awareness of energy flows. Try these simple techniques to reach a higher state and energy level.

As you near orgasm, delay the overwhelming urge to ejaculate by pulling your testes down and away from your body; this is known as the testes tug. You can practice this technique by yourself to train your body to reach pleasure without ejaculation or you can have your girl do this for you.

Another way to sustain lovemaking is to perform the penis tip squeeze. Gently squeeze your penis just below the glans and you will prolong your sexual experience. Experiment and play with yourself or have her do it for you. Either way, you will learn how to gain more pleasure.

Changing positions

If it seems like this is all about you, that's because it is. Though it may take longer for a woman, she can have multiple orgasms. You do not have that same ability… yet. With time and practice, you will gain the ability to achieve orgasm without ejaculation, but it does take patience to acquire this skill.

While you work on your multiple orgasms, try these tips to experience lasting lovemaking. If you've read or browsed the Kama Sutra, you've seen and possibly tried the multitude of possible positions. These varied positions come from the philosophical belief that a man's health requires the reservation of his fluids and energy, and that by changing sexual positions, the flow of increasing sexual arousal is broken. The buildup then begins anew because the sensations and the rhythms have changed. You can experiment with new positions and find the ones you both enjoy as you give her a lengthy and passionate experience.

Breathing techniques

Tantra can take you to different levels of lovemaking. Used in nonsexual and sexual ways, breathing is an essential part of tantra. Learning how to breathe will enable you to extract energies from her and the world around you. It also allows energies to flow back and forth between the two of you. Tantra uses many breathing exercises and lingers over each, gradually building upon gained expertise before moving on to the next level. However, you don't need to master them all to master yourself.

When men and women are excited, they often quicken their breathing or pant, which increases their arousal. And when they near climax, both tend to hold their breath. Thus, controlled breathing is an effective way to stave off your orgasm. Remember to be steady and relaxed, and to breathe deeply, slowly and rhythmically.

combining forces

Tantra trains the mind as much as it does the body; it is about a feeling of wholeness. Tantric sex isn't dualistic, and it does not want the separation of the mind and body. Rather, it seeks to join them in something greater and to make that union palpable and entirely enmeshed. It does not seek ejaculation, as sex isn't about the orgasm or how long it takes. The techniques used in tantric sex are designed to enhance your relationship and bind you emotionally and spiritually. It is all about the intermingling and interplay of energies. Above all, she'll love the techniques and appreciate the new, longer-lasting you.

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Unleash her wild side!

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Hey Guys,

There are many reasons to unleash the passionate and erotic wild side of your girl: getting hotter sex for example! You might have seen this side of her before and it faded, or you don´t even know what she is capable of. Either way, I am going to give you some advices to help get her groove on.

Buy her a sexy costume

The bottom line with this trick is that if you buy her a costume, she is obligated to put it on at least once. Find an special accasion, do some research and then go shopping. BUT Beware of scrimping! Those $30 outfits on internet may look amazing on the perfectly proportioned lingerie model, but "one size fits all" actually means " This will probably  look stupid on your girlfriend". Check her clothing tags and ask someone reliable what they think.

Some popular outfits: nurses, maids, corsets, and diminatrix styles.

BUT: choose something thats is stylish, sexy, well-crafted, and is going to fit her properly, not accentuating areas she would rather hide. Stockings, suspenders and corsets have good coverage and still are sexy.

Challenge her with erotic dares

Is she a sucker for a challenge? Get her competitive by suggesting erotic dares, such as stripping, dancing or being a shameless exhibitionist. The thrill of breaking her own boundaries will excite her. It's moments like these that stick in your mind and provide great fantasy fodder for later, plus a few good laughs at your audacity. Sexual antics in a public place or games at home can be excellent fun and really spice up your sex life.

Tease her over a prolonged period

The problem with men and women is that men generally want far more sex than women, so a woman can safely assume that whenever she wants it, he will be keen. This means that it is often the men who initiate sex simply because women don't get a chance to or because they know that they don't have to because you will. To reverse this on her, withhold sex for a bit and tease her mercilessly. Get her sexual mind active again, and she'll be all over you like a rash in no time.

There's nothing like a bit of carefully plotted reverse psychology to get her all hot and bothered. Tease her with touches (but stop there), sexy love letters or e-mails, erotic gifts, and of course, sensual words in her ear telling her what you would like to do to her. You will need to exercise some self-control here, but it will be worth it. Try a period of a week, and be crafty in your seduction.

Take command

Be bold, not demanding. Taking the initiative a step further, you can almost dare her to match you, say, in a public place — tit for tat, so to speak. Taking dirty commands is a turn-on simply because it can come out of the blue and be spontaneous. She might find she quite likes it and command you back.

One thing leads to another and before you know it, she's commanding you all over the place. And you love it because she's doing the deed and telling you what she wants.

Bring a camera

Cameras are always risky business but can be a great deal of fun (not to mention the future supply of fantasy materials they provide). Trust is essential. It has to be clear that nothing will happen to the photographs or videos — they're strictly for personal use only (unless otherwise agreed, of course).

Watching the action through a digital screen while you're doing it is fun because you get vantage points you didn't have before, especially of her. She can't see what you can; in fact, at any given moment she can't see much unless she folds over. Giving her a real taste of what she looks like from behind, or even while she is on top, can be very erotic and dare I say, interesting.

Get her to get loose

Women can be very shy about behaving in a lascivious manner. She might feel like a fraud or feel silly. Luckily, these things can be overcome reasonably easily. Being a sex goddess doesn't come naturally to many women, for whatever reason. The key to charging her with electric sexuality is to make her feel very comfortable, desired and safe. Don't ever laugh at her attempts because you can guarantee it will be her last if you do. Genuinely compliment her on what she does well, and even if it means overexaggerating at first, don't let there be a gap where she can think "Am I doing this right?" because you can bet that if she has the time of think that, she'll be thinking it.

Getting women to shed their inhibitions and get right into the filth can be hard, but it can also be incredibly easy; with the right situation anything is possible. On some occasions, make her feel comfortable so she can open up, and at others, surprise her with something raunchy and you may be pleasantly shocked at the results, as may she. Be very aware of boundaries — hers and your own — at all times, and if things become uncomfortable for either of you, stop. Make chatting about what you both like and want out of your sex life a regular thing and magic shall unfold. Just remember that if things aren't going your way, couples who communicate well have more and better sex.

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Top 100 things that attract women to men

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Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on
the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a
healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature
according to various women's magazines.

A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are
successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will
as well. Women will trust you with themselves

Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which
is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait
which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a
feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.

Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of
excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which
will seduce most women.

Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy.
Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain
social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you're
half way there. Read how to make a girl smile.
Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and
intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will
be a big part of your evening.

Being wealthy.Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even
excitement. This is very attractive to women whom crave all these
feelings.

Being playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with,
consequently triggering feelings of attraction in women.

Being touchy. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of
attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people
whom refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with
a girl.

Bravery. Being brave, alert in emergency situations is very attractive
and indicates that you will be able to protect her from danger.

Being excited about life. The energy that people emit when they are
excited about living is contagious and very attractive.

Being unavailable. People want what they can't get. Being hard ( but
not impossible! ) to get is attractive.

A cocky smile is attractive. Cocky smiles, demonstrated in movies such
as James Bond and Top Gun triggers feelings of confidence and
dominance which is extremely arousing. Read up on how to pick up girls
for more information.

Genuine smiles in general are attractive. As long as they are a
reaction to something that occurred and not because you are being
polite or awkward.

Being concentrated on a task is attractive to women. If a woman can
watch you while you are completely involved in a task, then she is
likely to be attracted to you. Examples of this can be her watching
you paint, play an instrument, anything you do well that requires full
absolute concentration on your part.

Playing an instrument is attractive to women. Wonder why the rock
stars get the girls… there are many reasons but those whom play music
are automatically ranked more attractive than those who don't.

Being famous.If you're famous, then by definition a lot of people know
you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being
important is very attractive to women.

Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.
Being well dressed. Wearing nice clothes demonstrate social status;
accentuate your physical features and shows that you take care of
yourself.

Unique accessories that match our personality. In our society,
accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, confidence and will
attract women. "What's that necklace you are wearing", says the girl
at the bar. That is one of the dating tips for how to attract women.

Shoes that are in style. The first thing that most girls notice in
guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about
you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans
from the 80's… but if you're wearing brand new shoes that are in
style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don't
have the shoes… get them.

Well fitting shirts. Baggy shirts are out! Shirts should complement
your body and show off your features. Now I'm not talking about
spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look
good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is
attractive to women.

A deep, commanding voice. Your voice says a lot about you, literally.
The next time you strike up a chat with a woman, don't sound squeaky.

Body posture. Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will
judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you
are a healthy mate and is very attractive to women. Lean back.

Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to
women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don't go too
far and stink. That's repelling.
Some light, musky cologne. These smells will mimic the natural smell
that males produce and used lightly, will arouse some females.

Leadership. Being a leader is very attractive to women, it
demonstrates social status and importance. Make decisions, lead the
pack.

Being dominant. Women are naturally submissive, and men should be
naturally dominant. Unfortunately with all our yoga classes and
hormonal milk, this has changed in the past century.

Being dangerous. Danger is hot, exciting, energising and can be very
addictive. Women love the bad boy.

Being intelligent. Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an
impressive line of studies or career is very attractive.

Being good with animals. Being good with living things indicates that
you will be a good mate, capable of protecting and caring for any
offspring you could potentially have. This is very attractive.

Being good with kids. Same as above.

Being genuinely interested in her. People love people whom are
interested in them. If you genuinely want to know what makes her tick,
this will be attractive.

Being the best, in a group of men. If you are the best out of the
competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive
to women.

Being disciplined. People want to be surrounded by competent
individuals. If you are able to control yourself when she can't, she
will see you as having a lot of willpower. This demonstrates that you
are in control of your life.

Not taking life too seriously. Having the gift to be able to laugh at
life and embrace it as an enjoyable experience. You don't have to
think about marriage every time you talk to a girl.

Being positive. Positive people are attractive. If you can show her
the sunny side of things, she will thank you for it.

Being a little selfish. Being slightly selfish indicates that you care
a lot about yourself and your well being. This relates to confidence
and importance which are attractive. Don't be a martyr.

Being generous. The complete opposite of being selfish, being generous
can be attractive as well because it demonstrates that you are not
needy and that you are wealthy. Note! Being generous does NOT mean you
should buy things for people so they like you… this is not attractive.
A good example of being generous would be, if you're with friends, you
could purchase the pitcher of drinks. This subconsciously communicates
that you are in charge, dominant and wealthy.

Spontaneity. Very attractive, alludes to excitement.

Good hair. Having nice, healthy and well groomed hair shows that you
take care of yourself.

Trimmed nails. Women notice, if you take care of yourself, she'll appreciate it.
A slight tan. These days, a tan indicates that you wealthy and
physically healthy.
Relaxed attitude. Being relaxed shows a lot of confidence.

Being driven. If you know what you want in life, and you're pursuing
it, this is attractive.

Nice teeth. It is very important to have nice teeth, women think about
it every time they consider kissing you.
Having nice possessions, such as a car, house or a boat. These
indicate wealth, excitement and power, all of which are attractive.
A sense of adventure. If you're curious about life, and are willing to
take risks. You can lure her into your world and she'll be happy to
follow you past her limits.
Honesty. Being able to speak the truth is difficult and shows that you
have accepted who you are as a person. It also shows that you don't
care what others think, which is very attractive.
Whispering in her ear. The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and
excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
Being busy. If you are busy, then you are important, independent and
have a life.
Being a man. Women love men who do manly things, stop doing yoga and
go play a sport, hit the gym and get dirty.
Having a nice butt. A sexy fitness indicator, attainable through the gym.
Pre-selection. If other women want you, then there must be a reason.
Having many people want you makes you attractive. You aren't a guy who
has time to look at personals.
Being genuine. Say what you mean and do what you say. This is hard,
but attractive.
Physically picking her up. Ever heard of sweeping her off her feet? This is it.
Touching her hair. There is something about having your hair touched
that is relaxing and arousing at the same time.
A nice face. Women love men with an attractive face. That's what
she'll be kissing and you better believe it makes a difference.
Originality. Women crave excitement, originality provides that.
Seduction is never the same and being original is an essential part of
it.
Experience. Maturity can be very arousing; if you know what you're
doing she'll appreciate it and you'll get laid more often.
Speaking to her true self. If you can see past the walls that most
people put and truly speak to the real person inside of them, you'll
be one of the few that understands them. This makes you very
important.
Independence. People don't like neediness, being independent shows
that you are self sufficient and can take care of yourself.
Teasing her. Playfulness, excitement, she loves it.
Composure. If you can keep your cool under stressful situations, she'll notice.
Being selective. If you are selective, then it implies that you aren't
needy and are valuable enough to want many people want you.
Being challenging. Playing hard to get is as true for women as it is
for men. People want what they can't have, and if they have to work
for something, they'll appreciate it much more.
Focus. If you know what you want, and are determined to get it, then
that's attractive.
Modesty. No one likes a show-off. Being modest is great, and
attractive. There is nothing better than a girl finding out something
good about you through a friend.
Muscular abs. An indicator of health.
Being natural. If you're genuine about how you feel, without caring
what others think, then that's attractive. You want to know if people
can handle the real you.
Charismatic. If your spoken words and gestures can warm up a room,
she'll notice and be warmed up as well. If she doesn't, her
matchmaking friend will tell her about you.
Sensual. Some people are frigid and cold. Some people are warm and
very alert to their senses. If you are in tune with your body, you'll
likely be in tune with hers as well.
A man that loves to have fun. Everyone wants to be around a guy who
enjoys himself, be that guy.
Goes against the rest of society. No one likes a follower. If you have
a conviction about something, stick with it. Make up your own mind
about things and people will respect you.
Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and
is therefore very attractive.
Persistent. If you go after your goals, other will notice. This is
very attractive as it shows will power that not many people have.
Being respected. If your entourage respects you, then she will as well.
Loyal. People do not want to get hurt, and will avoid you if aren't
loyal. It is better to remain single than to get into a relationship
you don't plan on staying in.
Romance. Spicing it up in a relationship is critical and attractive.
Don't always do the same thing because it will get boring really fast.
Drama. Ever wonder why women love soap opera's? It is because they
crave drama, gossip, secrets. It is exciting and attractive. If you
have an eventful life, people will be attracted to it.
The way you move. If you have calm, controlled and relaxed gestures,
then you will be seen as someone that is confident.
A mysterious grin. There's something about a grin that arouses
curiosity and intrigue.
Being extravagant. Sometimes going over the top is good, if you can
let yourself go from time to time, people will notice.
Loving yourself. If you truly love yourself for who you are, then
others will as well.
Being a teacher. Have you ever wondered why so many girls have crushes
on their teachers? It is because being a teacher is a sign of power
and knowledge, be a teacher.
Clean, clear skin. Physically, nice skin is a health indicator and
women will naturally be attracted to healthy looking skin.
Being energetic. Have you ever heard the expression, "he was the life
of the party" This is energy, its contagious and most people don't
have enough of it. It is very attractive.
Being passionate. Be in the moment and enjoy life every day. It's not
about the destination, but about the journey. You'll find your true
love along the way.
Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to
her playful teases, you'll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would
rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than
someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something
original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
Attentive to details. It's the little things that matter, if you
notice that she's done something different with her hair when no one
else does, she will appreciate and be attracted to that.
Convicted and has strong beliefs. Be opinionated about things. If you
ask someone a question about a topic and they have something
interested to say about it, that's attractive. Be opinionated.
Being in tune with her. Being in tune with someone is one of the
biggest factors in relationships. Have you ever felt chemistry? Have
you ever felt like you were on the same wavelength? If you and your
partner are similar (and you should!) this will come naturally and
will be one of the most attractive traits. The same applies for
meeting women during the day or night. If you're picking up a girl in
a club, then high energy is appropriate because your energy will be
matching hers. If you arrive with high energy during the day and she
is reading in the library, this will clash. Read the article on how to
approach girls for more information.
Being attentive to details in your life. Are you meticulous? Being
attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay
attention to the details in her life.
Being knowledgeable about various subjects. If you are versatile, then
you'll never be short of conversational topics. Being flexible and
able to adapt to all kinds of situations is attractive. Go read some
books.
Innocence. It's no fun when you know everything, have tried everything
and have been to the edge and back. A little bit of innocence is
attractive because it makes you more human. There's always something
that you haven't tried, let her know and invite you to try it with
you. Asking for her advice is alright as well.
Challenging her. Forcing her to be on her toes, teasing her, is
exciting and attractive.
Be a planner. If you are always organising events, you are
automatically the leader that has a high social status and a lot of
energy. This is very attractive; everyone wants to be invited to
outings.
Being open. Tell her about your life, the real one. Cut the B.S. and
you'll stand out as someone who's not trying to prove anything to
anyone.
Being direct. Being direct is very powerful and attractive. People use
indirect methods because they want to 'feel things out' and not get
hurt. Being direct shows that you are confident, bold and not scared
of rejection.
Be yourself, the good yourself. You shouldn't try to pretend to be
something that you aren't. You should grow and continually improve,
but remain genuine. Don't hide your faults, everyone has them. The old
saying," be yourself" is very true and is ultimately what will attract
the woman of your dreams.
Does it mean that you have to be all these things in order to attract
beautiful women into your life? No way! The universe has a weird way
of working and you'll be attracted to the one you were meant to be
with. She'll love your faults, your weaknesses and your strengths.
Have faith, believe in destiny and you shall meet your soul mate.
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The 5 Best Sex Positions for Women

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Yesterday we discussed the best sex positions for men, so it's only
fair that we give some attention to the ladies. Women have their own
set of criteria for what makes a great sex position, and, no, it
doesn't always have to do with what feels most like "making love."

While cuddling and body contact are nice, the real metric for a good
position for women is the amount of attention her clit can get. That's
right; most women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Call it
mother nature's design flaw, but fast and hard thrusting in the
missionary position isn't going to get us off easily.

With that in mind, these are the best sex positions for women as
determined by our willing (ok, possibly drunk) team of experts, in no
particular order.

Spooning. Spooning was an overwhelming favorite among the women I
talked to. Before you are quick to assume that it's the closest
position to cuddling that sex can be, consider the other benefits of
this position. The rear entry stimulates the front wall, or G-spot;
the shallow thrusting the position allows focuses all the sensation on
the first third of the vagina, which is where most of the
nerve-endings are; and there is easy access for him or her or your
favorite vibrator to touch her clit. Her legs closed makes it even
better because it creates extra tightness. Plus, it's a great position
for morning sex (no worries about morning breath) and anytime hangover
sex.

Reverse Missionary. This woman on top position is great because it
gives her control over the pace, motion, and depth of penetration.
While the cowgirl position allows him to penetrate a little deeper,
the reverse missionary has her leaning forward more, making the
thrusts more shallow, but increasing the indirect pressure on her
clit. She can get extra stimulation by grinding against his pubic bone
while riding. This is also a comfortable position from which she can
not only move up and down, but circle her hips for interesting
sensations.

Downward Dog. This modified doggy style position scored high among
women as well. Downward dog is a rear entry position with her head and
shoulders forward resting on bed, so it's more comfortable for her.
Downward dog has all the benefits of rear entry sex – deep
penetration, front wall stimulation, and the space to use her hands
for masturbating – but this modification protects her cervix from
eager thrusting a little bit more than doggy style.

Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). This textbook sex position sounds
dull, but it is designed with women's pleasure in mind and boasts the
highest rates of orgasms among women and simultaneous orgasms among
couples than any other. CAT is a different take on the missionary
position in which instead of the old in and out, he "rides high" with
his pelvis up and forward. This alignment puts the shaft of his penis
right on her clitoris, so when the couple slowly rocks together, it
produces a ton of sensation. He doesn't suffer any because the glans,
or head of his penis, is still highly stimulated.

The Lap Dance. Sitting sex positions don't win popularity contests,
but they're actually pretty fun. In the lap dance, he sits in chair,
she straddle him while facing him, and both partners have their feet
on floor.the couple has a lot of leverage to thrust, and there's also
plenty of body contact. It's perfect for a romp in the kitchen while
you're waiting for water to boil.

Whatever variation you're getting your groove on in, remember to pay
attention to that little force to be reckoned with – her clit. With
that, every position can be the best sex position for her. Read More......

How To Meet Swingers

Posted on 12:59 PM No Comments
So you wanna be a swinger. You and your mate have talked at length
about all the things to consider before swinging, and you're ready to
give it a try. So how do you pick another couple to swing with? This
can be a daunting step, especially since people don't walk around
wearing "swinger" tags to identify themselves.

When you are first starting out in the swing lifestyle, it is
important to choose the right couples to play with. It is important to
look for people who have similar interests, in addition to having a
shared physical attraction. It is a lot easier to take that extra step
if you feel comfortable with the other person or couple, trust me. A
lot of couples are not interested in playing on the first meet; often
the first meet is just to get to know each other. Here are some tips
on meeting the right person or couple to swing with:

* Websites. Start out by looking at a website that allows couples
to post their profiles, and look for people who posted things that
interest you. Most sites have programs that show you other couples or
individuals that match your profile. You can look by distance as well,
and you can look for people as close or as far away as you like.
Personally we look for people who are close by because we enjoy
hanging out with people, not just meeting to play. A great example of
this is my fiancé and I love to go off-road, so after a little
searching we found a group of swingers who also enjoy going off-road.
We started out just going off-road, than we went to a party after that
we started spending weekends with some of them. It is rarely just
about sex. Believe it or not, it is more about friendship.

* Instant Messaging. Another step to take if you want to protect
yourself is to create an IM ID that is separate from your regular ID
so that you can give that out to people you think you would like to
get to know better. Chatting on IM gives you the ability to maintain
some anonymity while still getting to know people better.

* Meet in Public. If you get to the next step and want to meet the
other individuals, choose a public setting. Keep yourself safe. We
have heard too many reports of people who were not careful and got
hurt. There is good and bad in every group of people and it is
important to make sure you're safe before proceeding. Meet at a
restaurant or a coffee house, and enjoy each other's company to see if
you want to proceed.

* Discuss Boundaries. After that, it's time to make a choice - do
you want to play or not? You can play whenever everyone is ready, but
make sure to discuss everyone boundaries first. Take care not to cross
the line, and take the time to enjoy yourself. It is ok to act out a
fantasy as long as everyone is ok with it. There is no shame in
enjoying the company of others, and there is no shame in enjoying
yourself sexually. We have to take risks if we want to find something
we enjoy.

* Safe Sex. One word of caution, condoms! Always practice safe sex
no matter who you are with. It is not worth the risk. You might
eventually meet a person or couple you are comfortable not using
condoms with, but that is a decision to make down the road. Use
caution and keep yourself safe.

These are just some of the things that have helped us meet other
swingers in a fun and safe way. Good luck meeting your new friends
with benefits! Read More......

Bathroom Sex

Posted on 12:58 PM No Comments
I've talked with my girlfriend about sex in public places. She's into
it, but her only request is that the place to be at least clean (not
some dirty bathroom in a diner or something.) This past weekend, I had
given her lots of back massages and scalp massages to help relax her
after a stressful week of work. She told me she won't forget to repay
me and suggested that maybe on Sunday, that a public frolicking might
be my reward.

Sunday comes by and we go to the mall and other places nearby to pick
up things we need. We had just left Wal-mart, and I really needed to
use the bathroom to take a dump. But the bathroom was closed for
cleaning for 15 minutes. I didn't want to wait, and instead we go to
the car to drive to Olive Garden for dinner. Now, the Olive Garden
near us has a small parking lot and you can easily spend 20-25 minute
driving around looking for parking. I inform my girlfriend that I have
to pee really badly (even though I have to take a dump), and wanted to
pull into a Panera Bread cafe nearby to use their bathroom since they
have a HUGE parking lot and I know I can find a spot, run in, take a
quick dump, and be on my way.

I run into the bathroom, which only has one stall, and I see that it's
occupied. Whatever I had eaten earlier wasn't sitting well with me and
I start pacing around in the bathroom waiting for the guy inside the
stall to finish. I'm literally sweating trying not to think about this
massive load that's going to explode once I sit down on the seat. I'm
unable to hold it any longer, lock the door (with the other guy still
inside the stall), drop my pants, squat, and take a massive explosive
dump into the urinal. Just then, the door quietly opens and closes;
apparently, the lock was broken. It's my girlfriend who decided to
cash in my reward.

There I was, squatting, with my ass facing the urinal, taking a dump.
She left in a hurry, and waited for me in the car. It was the quietest
and most awkward dinner ever… Read More......

My Old Mate’s Mum

Posted on 12:57 PM No Comments
The first excuse is I had just split with my girlfriend, and being
shallow - needed to move on… fast. And I had an all expenses hotel
room for two bought and paid for by my company.
But first - let me explain about Ashley, the victim, uh - I mean
woman. She was a friends mum. Back when I used to sleep over at my
mates house as a kid - I was 10 and thought she was hot as fuck. I
used to wank obsessively thinking of her. In their bathroom was the
laundry basket and I swiped a pair of her knick-knicks. Dropped em on
my face and proceeded to 'fire the custard cannon' inhaling the
mushroomy sent.
Problem was I was in the friends house who's mum it was, and we were
in bunk beds. Russel, the friend below me asked "Uh….. what you
doin??"
I forgot he was there…
"I'm, er, having an Asthma attack. Stop talking you are ruining it… Oh
and cover your eyes!"

The friendship ended when I wiped my arse on his pillow.

Fast forward 20 years or so, and I am in a hotel in Leeds. Very, very
pissed. As I said I was recently single, so invited my mate Bulldog
along. For those of you who know Bulldog, I asked all my proper mates
but was too short notice. Bulldog fell off his bike as a kid, and has
lots of scarring on his head where hair doesn't grow. He looks like he
got chewed up by a dog - hence bulldog. I am drinking to forget the
choice of idiot I have brought with me - Bulldog eating his normal
diet of pills!

There was a conference at the hotel I was staying at (why I was there)
- so it was rammed with women, and I am hitting on every single one. I
was on about my 25th 'fuck off' - then…. "OH MY GOD - is that you… it
IS you…. hi yoooooooou"
Ashley - Russel's mum. Time had not been kind to old Ashley.
She told me about her difficult break up… she said I hadn't aged a
bit, but she had as she had liver failure, leaving her skin sallow.
Me - pissed (drunk), told her I used to wank over her at 11, and stole
her panties.
So I am flirting, getting booglie and being a twat.
She - to my total shock is flirting back.
So, me, being all sensitive said:
"How about you come upstairs and fuck me and my mate"
She said….."OK"
(didn't expect that)
………………………………………….. ……"Seriously??"
"Yeah - why not" says she
"Fuck yeah" shouts Bulldog
"Shut up Bulldog" says I

So then, it turned into a game of chicken as we walked to the lift.
"come on then" I said as I started walking
"OK" she said… following me

"I'm serious" I said.
"Me too" she said.
"I'm not joking" I said
"Good" she said.
"Me too" said Bulldog
"Shut the fuck up bulldog"
I remember thinking 'Oh shit you've done it again - say your joking
and stop this!'

By now - we had got to the lift. I had sobered up real fast. I am
beginning to think this is a bad idea. It was a joke. After the Banana
lady - I leaned that fantasy is better than reality. But I called it,
and had way too much pride. You gotta know when to hold em and when to
fold em.
In the lift, with its harsh overhead lighting - she was not pretty,
sagging skin and yellow liver failure eyes. In the mirrored walls I
could see Bulldog shuffling about with excited tension, playing with
himself through his trouser pocket. It was repulsive, right there I
should have hit the alarm button and fucked off.

So, we get in my room. Of all the things you have read about me, this
was by far the most awkward moment to date. My old mate's elderly,
liver failing mum, drunk. My junkie mate looking like he is going to
have a stroke and grinning like Forrest Gump, touching his cock
through his pockets. And me. All looking at each other like a western
gun fight is about to start. Nobody actually tells you how these
things get going, you just start making random small talk.
I said "Chilly today isn't it"
Bulldog: "Huh??"
Ashley: "what? that's not very sexy"
I remember this next bit, as it is one of my epic FAILS. I had to say
something sexy, and wild, but didn't know what to say - all nervous I
honestly said the following…..
"Uh, yeaaaah….. my dick feels like corn"
corn… CORN?? what the fuck was I thinking, corn? I panicked and said
the first thing to come to mind and it was corn. Lucky for me - she
didn't miss a beat and said "Yeah, let me put some butter on it"
….and that's how it started

Bulldog was so amped his head went red with all the scars white, So -
I thought, fuck it - get in first. We started kissing. Even that was
awful, it was like a hovercraft drove over my face. Bulldog unbuttons
his shirt, I get naked in a flash to beat him, go for the kill, bend
Ashley over - cos I didn't want to do it face to face as she looked
just like my 10 year old mate Russel - but with a vagina.

I plumb it in, so far so good. I am hammering away. For a short while
it feels good and you forget the circumstances. I open my eyes and
Bulldog right next to me - looking right in my face. Grinning. I
didn't put any music on, so the only sound was like a dog walking
through mud, only wetter, and my idiot mate right up in my face. So I
whispered:
"Fuck off"
"What?"
"Fuck - off"
"Fuck yeahhhh"
"No - fuck off"
"My go!!"
"What"
"Gimme a go"
"I just started"
"I'm gonna blow - let me go"
with that he shuffles off in the corner and I can see him out of the
corner of my eye getting undressed 'FFLAPP' there was a wet slapping
sound, as if someone hit Bulldog, I snap my head around to look… 'FUCK
MEEEEEE'
It was Bulldogs cock. It was fucking huge. Like a comedy rubber, foot
long, lady slaying monster dick. The noise was as it swung and slapped
his thigh!! He then starts wagging it about, trying to get blood in it
cos it is too big to just 'wood up' like a normal-un.
You know that old footage of the girl in Viatnam - running down the
street naked, all burned from Napalm and screaming - that is how I
felt right there. How the fuck am I supposed to compete with that? I
am flapping a sub-standard baby dick and he is packing a monster!! I
know us guys are insecure about the size of our cocks, but fuck me!!
This ugly, fucking fat retard looking idiot, is swinging a giant cock
about.

Now, let me just clear up the size issue. It matters. A lot. Trust me.
Want to know how I know? Go into a sex shop. All the dildo's are thick
9+ inches or more of monster cock. Never has a woman gone "Uhh, yeah -
do you happen to have a sub-average size dildo?" Would never happen.
NEVER HAPPEN. The only time you could by a cock my size, all small and
ugly with an awkward kink in the middle would be on a key ring. And it
would be a joke.

"my go" Bulldog says again
I hadn't realized I had stopped moving. Just standing there, losing my
erection while looking at his - and still in mates mum. So I pull out.
Something about my idiot mate and his giant cock killed the moment for
me.

Now - you think everyone fucks like you. You base your basic 'fuck
technique' on porn, medium speed regular half second piston-like
pumps. Well…. they don't. Bulldong as I now call him is naked but for
shoes and socks. Still wagging it like he is going to smash her about
the head with it. He closes in behind Ashley… Him grappling the
monster with both hands, it so big it would bend in the middle, Flop
out and swing around. He'd grab it again. it was like watching a guy
try to post a python through a letterbox.
Then Ashley whent ooOOOOOHHHH SHIT yeah - oh yeah.

Needless to say - she didn't say anything like that with me. I felt
sooo shit. Curse my button mushroom-like cock. I didn't want to be
there and my pride had just been flamed.

Then he started fucking - christ it was awful to see. Grunting and
squeals, and hammering away like it was a race, like three hits a
second machine gun on auto, frenzy fuck. Bulldog is a big fatty fat,
fat. He looked like a giant baby with a monster cock, fucking my mates
mum. An image I will never forget - and the most traumatic I have yet
to see. All I could think is 'I forgot to make noises! Are you
supposed to make noises? He's doing the sex noises and she seems to
like it - not only has he a fantastic cock - he does noises!'

After only about 4 minutes Bulldog starts making loud grunts, pulls
out the massive beast, it slaps on her back 'thud' and he then blows
his load - all over her back. He then, like cave man, went
'Uunnhhhhhnnnghhhhuuuhhhhhhhhhggghh' and flopped on the bed, like a
grizzly bear shot in the ass with a tranquilizer dart.
I honestly thought, when he pulled his dick all out of her, her liver
would have shlopped out with it, hanging there like a grey flesh
yo-yo.

So - there I am. My freak mate, naked but for shoes - asleep on a bed.
My mates mum bent over expecting me to perform, and me, in a hotel
room. I wanted to die.
Ashley looks over her shoulder at me "Come on baby - fuck me - gimmie that corn"
I look at her pussy. Bulldog had ruined it. It was huge and stretched
out of shape like she had just given birth. I could have stuck my
whole hand in her cunt and flipped a coin!!
How the hell am I going to follow that??
So I position myself behind her grab her ass, and eyes shut, I am
thinking of as many sexy things as I can. Just get hard - ignore whats
going on, even morning piss-wood would do. Me trying to fuck her right
there was like pushing a marsh mellow into a kebab. I'm as hard as
jelly. Then my hand slips……………………. Bulldogs Junk is all over her and I
have just put my hand in it!
'AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRRRRGH'
It looks like a badly iced ring doughnut. So I grab her skirt,
pretending to massage her ass, and scoop it out of the way. No -
nooooo nooooooooooo NO!!
I have another mans cum on my hand. I was either going to me sick or cry.
I just stared at it, horrified. I must have been there a while, as she
turned around. I didn't even see her get up!!
She then started to blow my tiny baby cock - and that took my mind off
it. In fact, a blow job will pretty much take my mind off anything. I
had restored some pride, as I was now sporting just under 5 inches of
solid cock. It might not have been a giant like Bulldog's but you
could have prized open a steel door with it.
So, Ashly bends over and I'm in. It's OK - feels good, I am doing the
noises, working away. She is making noises - probably sympathy noises
but who cares, I am fucking.

I was just getting into it, blocking out what I have just seen by
remembering the best bits from my porn collection.
'Bang'
something hard hit the wall. I was all 'What the fuck was that?' I
look about, and it was a shoe. Bulldogs shoe. Did he throw a shoe at
me? "Bulldog what the fuuuh….."
I look over and he is naked - socks and shoes now gone, and he is
doing something.
He has his back to me, but I can see he is up to something, fussing
hard doing… something.
So absorbed at what he was trying to do - I stopped moving again.
Nothing prepared me for what I was about to see.

Bulldog turns around. His cock looked even bigger but horrible! Dark
purple and blue, bulging with veins. All swollen, I though it might
explode. Around the bottom, he had tied his shoe lace!
"Bulldog - what the fuck??" - I look at the shoe that hit the wall
and, as I expected - no laces.
"Make shift cock ring" says Bulldog. Standing there - with his cock
presented with a big shoe lace bow at the bottom. All the skin where
tied was puckered up and white, then bulging twisted veins and
engorged. It was grotesque, like a giant purple gherkin.
How the hell did he get hard again so soon? Must have been 5 minutes…

So again I am out. Bulldog - eyes bulging, just rams it in. And then
goes fucking nuts.
Fucking like a psycho, angry fucking, grunting and shouting.
"Uhhhhhhh?…" I am standing there like a twat
Bulldog gets worse and starts making animal noises and biting her neck
- Ashley looks scared. He is biting hard - I can see the tooth marks,
and hammering so hard I can see AND HEAR his turkey-neck nut sacks
mash into her ass.
I try to grab his attention - and whisper "Bulldog"
"Nnnagghh ahhhhhh, uuuuugh"
"Bulldog"
"GNhhhaarrr, uhh, UUUHHH, Arrrrrr"
"BULLDOG"

He looks up - only one eye open like a crazy fucked up pirate. All red
n sweaty with glowing white scars. It spooked the fuck out of me. So I
screamed. Like a little girl
"EEEEEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeehhhh"
I have no Idea why I screamed - probably fear, but I am sure I had
never screamed before. It was loud enough that Ashley stood up
'Shhhlop' over a foot of Bulldog fell out.
'What?' said Ashley.
Me - feeling an even bigger twat "Oh…nothing"
So, as Bulldog was standing there, already, she sat on the edge of the
bed and tried to fit the purple monster in her gob.
I had become a spectator. So - I tried to tell em 'I fold - I'm out,
fuck this, you are both fuckin freaks' but what I actually said was
"Err… hellooooooo?"
With that Ashley flopped the giant cock from her mouth. It looked like
she had been drinking mayonnaise, stood up and tried to kiss me. Right
after smoking Bulldog's mutant pole! FUCK THAT!! She got close enough
that I could smell Bulldog's onion knob stench on her breath! So I
pushed her off - harder than I meant, she fell back onto the bed and
bounced off, onto the floor, smashing a lamp. Letting out the loudest
fanny fart I have ever heard 'Phhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrflp' I
am sure it splashed my face.

Enough was enough. The whole affair was a nightmare. I grabbed my
jeans and slept in the car. Nothing like porn. Not even close!

Never again. Read More......

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