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I know, I know - I've used this blog on more than one occasion to vent
about how difficult it can be for a woman (especially a woman in her
late 30s) to date in NYC. And it is hard.

There are, by anyone's count, more women that men here(although there
is some debate as to the actual numbers - see the comments on this
link) and a general sense that women in New York are, well,
expendable. That if a guy meets someone who isn't his perfect, ideal
woman he should just get rid of her and find someone better. The
logic being that there are so many amazing women (and so many of them
are single and having trouble meeting a decent guy) here that he'd
have no trouble getting someone better.

There have even been several times when I've considered moving
primarily because of how difficult it is to date here. Friends who've
moved to other places and then quickly met someone and got married
have tried to lure me with promises of easy living, low rent and bars
full of great single men. But I've stayed because I love New York.
It's my home and love it despite its faults.

And over the years, even though I may vent about the difficulties
every one and a while, I've learned to love dating here, too. That's
right, there are things to love about being a single woman in New
York. And since it's Friday I sat down and came up with a list of 5.

5 Things I Love About Being A Single Woman & Dating in New York City

1. It's perfectly acceptable to eat alone in a nice restaurant. I
used to travel sometimes for work and I almost always ate at the bar.
There's something weird, in most parts of the country, about sitting
at a restaurant table alone and having a good meal. Whereas, in NYC,
it's pretty common. In fact, I met a guy this way once. I was
feeling blue and so treated myself to lunch at one of my favorite
restaurants. And he was sitting at the next table, also eating alone.
He was cute and he thought I was cute and by the end of our meal we'd
exchanged business cards. I would have enjoyed my meal just as much
if I'd eaten in silence (awesome food), btw.
2. The rules are that there are no rules. I don't care what anyone
says about dating in New York, there are no rules. Things that make
perfect sense in other places just don't work here. People come here
from all over the world, with different sets of beliefs and
expectations. All of us, no matter how much a person might feel the
need to hold on to some code of behavior, are just muddling through.
My inner anarchist finds this exhilarating.
3. Dating in NYC means going to some of the most spectacular
museums, restaurants and clubs in the world. I know this is going to
sound really snobby, but I'd so much rather have a second date at the
MOMA than at Applebees.
4. There are always more fish in the sea. Sometimes NYC feels like
douchebag heaven. But lucky for us, we don't have to actually date
those losers (we don't have to date at all, but that's another post).
For every douchebag there's a decent fellow out there, just waiting to
buy a girl a drink.
5. NYC is home to some of the most interesting men in the world. In
the past decade I've dated a composer, an expert on international
development, an art gallery owner, a hedge fund officer, assorted
project managers and techies/programmers of random varieties, guys
with Ph.D.s in topics I barely understood, a music producer, several
small business owners/entrepreneurs, an actor or two, a musician or
two (or three), a tv producer, a journalist and a couple of teachers.
Oh, and then there were a few lawyers and a couple of doctors and the
stand up comedian(maybe I should stop, now). They came from so many
different states and countries it would make my head spin to try to
remember them all. And most of them (because this is something I'm
attracted to) had travelled widely and spoke at least one language
other than their native tongue. Like I said, interesting.