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So you wanna be a swinger. You and your mate have talked at length
about all the things to consider before swinging, and you're ready to
give it a try. So how do you pick another couple to swing with? This
can be a daunting step, especially since people don't walk around
wearing "swinger" tags to identify themselves.

When you are first starting out in the swing lifestyle, it is
important to choose the right couples to play with. It is important to
look for people who have similar interests, in addition to having a
shared physical attraction. It is a lot easier to take that extra step
if you feel comfortable with the other person or couple, trust me. A
lot of couples are not interested in playing on the first meet; often
the first meet is just to get to know each other. Here are some tips
on meeting the right person or couple to swing with:

* Websites. Start out by looking at a website that allows couples
to post their profiles, and look for people who posted things that
interest you. Most sites have programs that show you other couples or
individuals that match your profile. You can look by distance as well,
and you can look for people as close or as far away as you like.
Personally we look for people who are close by because we enjoy
hanging out with people, not just meeting to play. A great example of
this is my fiancé and I love to go off-road, so after a little
searching we found a group of swingers who also enjoy going off-road.
We started out just going off-road, than we went to a party after that
we started spending weekends with some of them. It is rarely just
about sex. Believe it or not, it is more about friendship.

* Instant Messaging. Another step to take if you want to protect
yourself is to create an IM ID that is separate from your regular ID
so that you can give that out to people you think you would like to
get to know better. Chatting on IM gives you the ability to maintain
some anonymity while still getting to know people better.

* Meet in Public. If you get to the next step and want to meet the
other individuals, choose a public setting. Keep yourself safe. We
have heard too many reports of people who were not careful and got
hurt. There is good and bad in every group of people and it is
important to make sure you're safe before proceeding. Meet at a
restaurant or a coffee house, and enjoy each other's company to see if
you want to proceed.

* Discuss Boundaries. After that, it's time to make a choice - do
you want to play or not? You can play whenever everyone is ready, but
make sure to discuss everyone boundaries first. Take care not to cross
the line, and take the time to enjoy yourself. It is ok to act out a
fantasy as long as everyone is ok with it. There is no shame in
enjoying the company of others, and there is no shame in enjoying
yourself sexually. We have to take risks if we want to find something
we enjoy.

* Safe Sex. One word of caution, condoms! Always practice safe sex
no matter who you are with. It is not worth the risk. You might
eventually meet a person or couple you are comfortable not using
condoms with, but that is a decision to make down the road. Use
caution and keep yourself safe.

These are just some of the things that have helped us meet other
swingers in a fun and safe way. Good luck meeting your new friends
with benefits!